Jesse’s Girl: Support in Recovery

So, the song goes, “I wish that I had Jessie’s girl,” because some dude is lusting after his friend’s woman. This post isn’t so much about that. In my head that song is more like other girls singing, “I wish that I was Jesse’s Girl” because let me tell you, my man is the good stuff. And, he’s HOTTER than Rick Springfield. The best way to get support is to ask for it. Trust me, I know this is hard. When you’re in the throes of an eating disorder, secrecy is king. I get it. The LAST THING you want…

Want to #feelallthefeels? Try this…

Have you ever realized when you say, “I feel fat,” that can’t possibly be true? In daytime treatment, at nearly every meal, this conversation took place: Therapist: How do you feel? Client: I feel fat. Therapist: Fat is not a feeling. How do you feel? Client (in their head): As a person with anorexia… I respectfully (most of the time) disagreed with the notion that fat is not a feeling when I was in treatment. The feeling of fat was extraordinarily real to me. I felt literally like I was expanding with each bite. I could feel the extra flesh…

#mommystrong’s greatest hits

Because many people have started following #mommystrong recently (thank you!), I wanted to direct followers to my most popular and favorite posts (this mirrors the Best of #mommystrong page so you can always refer back there as well). My two main goals with this blog are: Support those who are experiencing eating disorders to feel that recovery is possible and provide resources. Self catharsis as I process and reflect my own anorexia recovery journey. My Story After 40 years, God showed up. The best frenemy there ever was. And I do mean WAS. On aging and anorexia Ten years an…

Not sick enough.

It’s common for people with eating disorders to not feel “sick enough” to be diagnosed or get treatment, or even think there’s anything wrong with their “diet.” I am one of those people. Even to this day, I question if I was ever as sick as my treatment team tried to make it sound. I thought they were just trying to scare me. I was so depleted one evening that I had to stop in the middle of cooking dinner because I couldn’t stand. JJ had to finish cooking. I blacked out several times. I had leg cramps most nights….

You can’t be brave if you aren’t scared.

A quote I heard six months ago that stuck in my brain since, from one of the best movies I’d seen in a long time: Maybe I’m the only one, but I suspect not. 8th grade was AWKWARD. I spent most of it being scared, but not brave. Because that’s also accurate: You can be scared and not brave. Watch this trailer for the movie. Take a couple of minutes. I bet you’ll see yourself, to some degree, in her story. You can just live in the fear and let it overwhelm and suffocate you. I’ve done this for a…

After 40 years, God showed up.

So, Jesus and me. We have had a long and winding journey. I followed Jesus as a Christian for 15 years, from age 14-29. Highlights of this time include: Being at church 5-7 days per week during high school Going to a tiny Baptist university in Arkansas Going to Africa as a missionary for two years after college Working at a Baptist college after returning to the States Being a “small group” leader (the group grew to 30) and mentor to younger Christians I mean, I was IN IT, y’all. I wore shirts like this: I was Christian. I could…

Grit and Growth Mindset for Anorexia Recovery

As a higher education professional for 15 years, I have learned a thing or two about two concepts that are HUGE in the world of student success: grit and growth mindset. I’ve been working hard to develop a workshop for my students on Resilience, Grit, and Growth Mindset and realized, “Oh…I should probably practice what I preach.” Alas, those who can’t do…teach. And there it was: the enemy of the growth mindset – the word “can’t.” A couple of quick definitions so we’re on the same page: Grit – passion and perseverance for long-term goals, a concept by Angela Duckworth;…